Punk Rock Parents: Eves dropping

Tuesday, October 21, 2008

Eves dropping

On Sunday we had breakfast out at a local little spot. As we were sitting saying "The Phi eat" over and over again. A couple sat down in the booth behind me. They were both pretty loud and I could hear their entire conversation. It was obviously a first date complete trash talking each other ex's and a list of places they had lived. One ordered lunch and the other, an avid gym person, ordered a spinach omelet. It was cute to overhear. The awkward laughs and subtle flirting. They were both middle aged and had steady jobs. They were both men. As I listened to them and their first date banter it reminded me of when PR Dad and I were first dating. The excitement of getting to know one another. It was just like us, except they were both dudes. 

Yes this is turning into a post about Prop.8. The proposition on the ballot to take away marriage rights to same sex couples. I don't get it. I am a married woman (hell I've been married twice) and we have a family. There is nothing more important than my family. I am the mother bear who will growl and scratch to protect my family. Here is what I don't understand. If those 2 guys hit it off and fall in love and get married and adopt some babies, how does that threaten my family? How is does that even effect me, my husband and my kid? When I am at Starbucks and see a young heterosexual couple on a date I don't think about how their possible marriage could effect me and my family. So why would 2 men or 2 women getting married be any different?Prop 8 does not make sense to me. 

I firmly believe that love is love and that like some people are brown or white, some people are gay or straight. I love my husband and I am happily married to him and we are raising our daughter together. We file a joint tax return and we all share a last name. We are committed to each other spiritually and legally. I believe that every person should be given these same rights. By denying anyone the right to marriage is stripping someone of their civil rights. A proposition not allowing Latinos to marry White people would be outrageous and racist and backwards and wrong. Why is this any different? 

6 comments:

  1. Well done PR Mom. I don't get it either. Love your blog.

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  2. Anonymous2:59 PM

    The bible does not accept it, so why should we?????

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  3. Anonymous3:12 PM

    Because it's not Christian to treat others unfairly. The bible does not accept a lot of things that happen in our every day lives. I'm catholic but it's time we get with the times. If two people love each other, then they should have the chance to be happy.
    Good job PR Mom! :)
    Ang

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  4. I am with you, PR mom, 100%, and guess what anonymous? I am a Christian.
    We need to love others where they are at, not where we THINK they should be.

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  5. Anonymous4:54 PM

    To anonymous who cites the Bible: Remember, not every has the same religious beliefs you do, and we live in a Country that has chosen not to legislate on the basis of religion. If we did, the question then becomes, whose religion should form the basis of that legislation. The answer is simple, as our founding fathers declared in the 1st Amendment--you simply don't legislate religion at all so there is no need to choose, hence the doctrine of separation of church and state. Plain and simple. You can't force the state to impose religious practices on others. Anonymous also ignores the fundamental underpinning of Christianity to love one another as you would like to be loved. It is such flawed reasoning that it almost doesn't warrant a response. Love your post today 'Lis. I am proudly raising my boys to be open and understanding of all other people, and Elias regularly chants "no on 8, no on 8" while I stand proudly by. There's my rant for the day. JVS

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  6. Anonymous7:53 PM

    Prop 8 reminds me of when folks were not allowed to marry b/c they were of different races- just plain ignorance.

    References:
    Perez v. Sharp (1948)
    http://www.freedomtomarry.org/get_informed/marriage_basics/history/perez_v_sharp.php

    Loving v. Virginia (1967)
    http://www.freedomtomarry.org/pdfs/mildred_loving-statement.pdf

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