Punk Rock Parents: It's Baby Season

Sunday, August 07, 2016

It's Baby Season

Yesterday I went to my best friend Sam's baby shower. She is due at the end of September with her second child.  She is having another boy. I also got to visit my friend Dana and meet her crazy cute almost one year old son. And as I am writing this my gal pal Angela is in a hospital in London, England and she is in labor with her first baby. She has been keeping us all updated through Facebook messenger and me and the girls are so excited and hoping for an easy delivery and cannot wait to get some adorable baby pictures. Louie even did some shopping today for her new London friend.

It's baby crazy around here these days. I even had someone ask us today if we were having a boy. (uh offended much?). Joey and I get asked all the time, if we are going to have more kids. People seem to just have this feeling when they know they are done having kids. Here is the thing. I never got that feeling. When Louie was born I didn't feel like we were "complete". In a perfect world I would have liked to have had 4 kids. All about 2 years apart. But of course we don't live in a perfect world and it took us about a year to conceive Sophia. When Sophia turned 1 year old, we ditched the birth control and started trying for baby #2. It took us over 3 years to conceive Louie. In fact right before I got pregnant with Louie I had went to my ob/gyno and started talking about fertility issues. After about the second year of trying Joey and I had decided that if we were not pregnant by the time Sophia turned 5 we would stop trying. We were not getting any younger.

Louie was born 10 days after our self-induced deadline.  After she was born I didn't immediately feel like my family was done. But we had to face reality. Odds were it was take us years to get pregnant again. We would be raising kids until our sixties! So for the last 5 years the chances of more kids has been decreasing and decreasing. At this point, with a 6 year old and a junior higher, the idea of starting all over again with a newborn seems exhausting. We are even starting to imagine what our life will be like when the girls are in college. The cruises we can take, the dinners out, sleeping in on the weekends. At this point we have started talking about the big "V" for J.

So this is what my family looks like...


If thing would have worked out differently maybe we would have had more kids. But 2 girls is what I have. 2 amazing kids. I am so lucky to be their Mom. Watching them grow how been such a trip and J and I have doe our best to pour everything we have into them. It's crazy to remember being a teen imagining what my future would look like. To try to imagine what my husband and kids would look like. I can honestly say I never imagined what I have today. What I have today is so much more and so much better than I even could have imagined.

6 comments:

  1. You're gonna get pregnant now that you've written this haha

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    1. Haha! I will sue NuvaRing. Joey says is someone will sponsor the next one we would have another one.

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  2. Kelly Nowak8:26 AM

    That's exactly what I was thinking Mercy Elaine!

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  3. I love this post. Bob and I only wanted two, and we didn't care whether they were boys or girls. We just took potluck.

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  4. I think family is one of those things that really can't be planned. Yes, birth control helps you stay un-pregnant, but even that isn't foolproof (as I know all too well.) My husband and I had planned to have one child--the second one was a BIG surprise. But that kid has been the sunshine of my life. Our family would be totally incomplete without him.

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    1. You are so right. Sometimes it just feels up to destiny!

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